Is It Possible

[Exis]

to love someone too much?...

...cause shit , there is this girl that has just changed everythin' fa real...pretty much 98% of thoughts that circulate my dome are about her...if I could say sumthin' that meant more than I love you , yo...that would be at the start of every convo...what laces the middle of it , and what ends shit...thoughts?...I am way way more than attached to this precious being.

[Phonix]

Would you change everything about you to her specifications?

[Exis]

good question fam , um...yeah I guess I would...I can't really think of anythin' I wouldn't do for her...but 'everything' means if she ask me to go all anal I would...that isn't gonna happen lol , let me pose that to you though...if you were (my bad , you could be)...so into a girl where literally all revolves around her...are you willin' to totally conform to how she want things?...I guess it really depends on what she askin'...but yeah I have never felt this way about anyone , the feelings she has bought out altho beautiful...are confusin'.

[Phonix]

I couldn't see me changing drastically for anybody.
In a relationship now and the extent of me acting changing for her is just to agree not to smoke when i'm around her.
I dunno, i prefer having more control over the relationship than the other person.
I guess that's just my personality though.

[Fero Blaque]

Ex, you're In too deep son. Try to get a little less attached to her cause honestly, she can really fuck up your heart right now.

I've had this once.. and I never felt so devastated .. that shit was pain real pain. Stay treu to yourself.. If a bitch doesn't take you for you then the only thing that will happen Is pain.

[Exis]

nah I hear that , control is good but I aint want it to be forced in that regard...well to seem dominant...she hasn't asked me to change anythin' specifically as yet...nor do I think she will...but am definately prepared for that.

my bad Fero you hopped in duke , sorry fam...I'll edit.

...nah she certainly take me for me , who I is and all...but I hear you bro...I aint even tryna get a heart crushed and yeah that's in the back of my mind...a question though , how can you detach yourself to where it's not pushin' her away at distance?...cause yo...I aint wanna be less affectionate and have her question that...or even worse , leave.

[Fero Blaque]

Yeah you're right, becoming less attached to her also means there's less affection involved and you basically making It hard on yourself for maybe nothing. That's the strange thing about love.. always when something seems too good to be treu I push It away because It frightens me and I always think about the negatives Instead of the positives.

I'm affraid to get hurt so I push shit away, Instead I did hurt people by doing It just because I didn't want them to hurt me.

Ofcourse It can be treu love Ex no doubt, love is one big risk 'n yo just take It. I was thinking, If you don't then you missed a great oppertunity perhaps so It's all good.

Real love Is rare homie, so enjoy It. If It doesn't work out, you WILL learn from It trust me so It's positive either way around.

[Exis]

well shit , that's like a catch 22...now I have concerns that she just out to fuck me over...and altho I have set myself up to get hurt...I would be extremely surprised if she did that...I know I am in so over my head I can't even see the surface of where I've submerged to...you've been there so you can relate I guess fam , but this is some real new shit...and this wasn't sumthin' I was lookin' for fa real...it just happened...if I am crushed as the end result though , hmm...I really don't know how Ima take it...I don't see a positive there man.

[Ac.Kro.NyM]

god this sounds like my pasttttttttt relationship...i changed i stopped drinking stop smoking...hell i even stop going to the club...i was all her... i aint even chill with my boys like talk about anymore...of course we got in arguments here in there... but it ultimately ended up in us making up and having passionate sex...was fucking great till one day... that wont enough...she ending up fucking someone i was coo with actually recording with...and that shit scarred my life drastically i was so fucked up dude shit was rediculous....altho it doesnt phase me now and i have a new girl i care about...i can never go all in because of that thought in the back of my mind....

dont get to caught up man in feeling cuz at anytime shit can change

[Fero Blaque]

Treu, you can't really 'take it' the good way. It'll hurt, but It can work out you feel me ? Shit I got you doubting right ? Anyway It's a risk. Those who don't take risks will end up being a single man for the rest of their lives while ya friends got kids running around you've got nothing.

Go for It, just don't lose your cool and talk to her about things you're not certain of etcetera but don't open up the whole book. Tell her how you feel, tell her to be honest with you as you're being honest with her so neither can get hurt.

See It like this : It Is was It Is, If you get hurt you get hurt If you don't you don't 'n you might have some good times with her. Maybe even marry her I don't know your plans. If you feel like this go for It.. I did and I fucked up because of myself.

Just take It step by step, we rushed into things and It didn't work. Step by step homie, but If you don't go for It you'll regret It so much.

[Exis]

ahh to be honest yeah , you've added an element of doubt bro...but it was probably always there just pushed to the back of my mind...I really needed some insight as I haven't been there before , was actually tentative in postin' this thread because I had a feelin' durin' it I would question shit...I really don't catch feelings with a girl...see them as sisters , and as much as I tried to keep that mentality...feelings took over.This 'risk' thing is what I have issues about , I do see myself spendin' my life with her...I also now see myself gettin' my heart ripped the fuck out and stomped on...

...in relation to what you said Ac , what if the girl was the one to change everythin' for you?...I believe this angel has done that...is that because she thinks that's what I want...or what she does?...obviously everyone different but I want to accept her for the person she is...aint ever want her to conform or be molded into sumthin' she isn't.

[Ac.Kro.NyM]

Honestly...the way you feel about her is probably how i felt about my ex...she changed shit for me she made me want to do better on my own made me work hard so i could be successful...i was with her for two years and I wouldve swore on everything we was getting married in the long run... you just gotta peep her as you go on...watch what she does how she acts to certain situations or surrounddings... she might have changed everything for you... it could be insecurities ...cuz my girl was beautiful...but insecure i praise her like the angel she was but the benefit with that was for her cuz she start feeling herself more and more...and i guess with that once she became comfortable with her self it turn into cockiness and she wanted to venture out and test the waters... i dont know fam just peep her before you throw all you have into it...cuz Ive been through this and last thing you want is the heartbreak i had... cuz it took me 2 years to recover fully... no lie

[Kill POWER]

i wouldnt change for any female... but i have been wanting to get with a fit non smoking female though... i want to quit...

[impolite]

you shouldn't be accessible or vulnerable to anyone unless you're certain they are just as much that way to you. otherwise you can be exploited, damaged or your level of commitment could intimidate her because it carries a moral obligation. best of luck brethren, i'm optimistic for your situation.

[eL Rated]

I didnt read rest of posts seen as im bit busy but..
I will say this, im only fucking 15, and ive had my head messed up by a girl..
And you seem pretty deep in son, and if she knows this, as a women, she will fuck with your head. Intentionally or unintentionally, if you cant pull away from her, try not to show it, but keep strong my man no matter what.